T and I received a package from a dear friend of ours containing 2 home made paddles. One with holes, one without. They are made of wood and when used with more intensity, are far more severe then the implements we already have. Of course, as soon as I opened the package and we had a bit of privacy, we had to try them out. T didn't know these things were being sent to us as I had kept it a secret. So we gave each other a few "test swats" and along with the usual sting associated with a wooden paddle, these left a lasting "burn", even with the light test swats we used.
That night I decided to use the new paddles on T for erotic purposes. As most people will attest to, any implement can be used much harder and longer when it's being used for erotic purposes. It's all in the mindset. Anyway, so I used the new paddle, with holes, on T that night and afterwards noticed something that had never happened before. He had bruises. Little bruises the size of the holes in the paddle and I didn't even use anywhere near full strength in my swats. This is the first time this has ever happened. T is a "light weight" when it comes to pain but at the same time, his skin does not bruise very easily. He can run into a wall or fall over something and there won't be a mark on him. So I was a bit surprised when I discovered the bruises (they weren't visible yet during the paddling as not only had they not surfaced yet but at the same time his little tush was quite red so I wouldn't have seen them yet even if they were there). It stands to reason now that when T uses that paddle on me, he will have to be very careful as I DO bruise easily. I think my butt is much more resilient then the rest of me though as he's delivered some quite intense erotic spankings and I didn't have any bruises. But we shall see.
On a side note, Welcome to all our new readers and a big THANK YOU to Bonnie (My Bottom Smarts) for helping us get some readership.
~D~
Showing posts with label spanking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label spanking. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Update
Well, I guess I waited long enough to see if T was going to post here but alas, he hasn't so I will. He did make a comment on my last post so I guess that counts a little.
I did get a punishment that night I wrote my last entry. It wasn't a harsh punishment but it WAS more then I've gotten before (which isn't surprising since I haven't had that many). I think what made it more aside from the amount of whacks I got was it was the first time I really understood the whole clearing of the slate thing. T mentioned it in his post about his punishment but until this one for me, I hadn't really "got it". This punishment gave me a new definition of forgiveness. Not just the forgiveness I got from T, but I was able to forgive myself for what I had done. It was like a weight was lifted from me.
Someone had posed the question about how one can get past a punishment they received in order to give a proper punishment to the person who had just toasted their buns so to speak. Her point was that she felt that if she had the power to punish her husband like he punishes her, when it came time for a spanking, she would be keeping a running "tally" of her punishment and her thoughts would be "just wait till it's your turn over MY knee".
Well, this scenario played out in our house that very night. Before he commenced my punishment, he did a bit of confessing of his own. Once mine was over, I decided to take care of his as well so we would both have a clean slate and have a fresh start. Did I hold a grudge and beat the tar out of him for spanking me? No. I feel that if the punishment is done properly, which it was, I won't have those feelings. I knew what I did wrong and accepted it as well as the punishment. When the spanking was over, he hugged and kissed and everything was forgiven. So when it came time for me to take care of his punishment, I wasn't even thinking about the one he had JUST given me (not even 10 minutes had passed). His offenses were much more minor then mine so it wouldn't have been fair to give him as much or more as he gave me.
I also found that it wasn't very difficult at all to switch from being the submissive to the dominant like I did that night. I don't know if T had any issues with switching from Dom to sub but it didn't seem as if he did. He was even able to tell me that he needed a bit more when I asked if he felt the punishment was done. I can't describe how proud I was of him at that moment because I know how difficult it can be to ask for more when you're backside is already stinging and hot. I hadn't used the bath brush up to that point but I felt it was appropriate to give him what he needed and had the courage to ask for. After a few swats with it, he was ready to be done. LOL
Hopefully he will come in here soon and give his thoughts on everything I've covered here. I guess I need to remind him that this blog exists as he tends to forget things like this. He has a "regular" blog that he hasn't touched in probably 6-8 months. I won't let that happen here. Maybe I'll make it a rule that he has to come in here and post at least twice a month and make it spankable if he doesn't. Till next time...
~D~
I did get a punishment that night I wrote my last entry. It wasn't a harsh punishment but it WAS more then I've gotten before (which isn't surprising since I haven't had that many). I think what made it more aside from the amount of whacks I got was it was the first time I really understood the whole clearing of the slate thing. T mentioned it in his post about his punishment but until this one for me, I hadn't really "got it". This punishment gave me a new definition of forgiveness. Not just the forgiveness I got from T, but I was able to forgive myself for what I had done. It was like a weight was lifted from me.
Someone had posed the question about how one can get past a punishment they received in order to give a proper punishment to the person who had just toasted their buns so to speak. Her point was that she felt that if she had the power to punish her husband like he punishes her, when it came time for a spanking, she would be keeping a running "tally" of her punishment and her thoughts would be "just wait till it's your turn over MY knee".
Well, this scenario played out in our house that very night. Before he commenced my punishment, he did a bit of confessing of his own. Once mine was over, I decided to take care of his as well so we would both have a clean slate and have a fresh start. Did I hold a grudge and beat the tar out of him for spanking me? No. I feel that if the punishment is done properly, which it was, I won't have those feelings. I knew what I did wrong and accepted it as well as the punishment. When the spanking was over, he hugged and kissed and everything was forgiven. So when it came time for me to take care of his punishment, I wasn't even thinking about the one he had JUST given me (not even 10 minutes had passed). His offenses were much more minor then mine so it wouldn't have been fair to give him as much or more as he gave me.
I also found that it wasn't very difficult at all to switch from being the submissive to the dominant like I did that night. I don't know if T had any issues with switching from Dom to sub but it didn't seem as if he did. He was even able to tell me that he needed a bit more when I asked if he felt the punishment was done. I can't describe how proud I was of him at that moment because I know how difficult it can be to ask for more when you're backside is already stinging and hot. I hadn't used the bath brush up to that point but I felt it was appropriate to give him what he needed and had the courage to ask for. After a few swats with it, he was ready to be done. LOL
Hopefully he will come in here soon and give his thoughts on everything I've covered here. I guess I need to remind him that this blog exists as he tends to forget things like this. He has a "regular" blog that he hasn't touched in probably 6-8 months. I won't let that happen here. Maybe I'll make it a rule that he has to come in here and post at least twice a month and make it spankable if he doesn't. Till next time...
~D~
Sunday, January 27, 2008
My Turn
I got my first real punishment the other night. It was pretty minor seeing as I had only earned 1 tally mark worth 5 whacks for using inappropriate language around our daughter. It's one of the things we really wanted to stop doing so that's why it earned me 5 whacks. T started with a little bit of a warm up and then I got 5 stingy whacks with the bath brush. As I said, it was pretty minor but it did sting. I can't say that I had as powerful an experience as T did after his encounter but it did do it's job and I've been more careful with my language.
The use of the journals and tally system has really made a difference in our journey. No more letting things slide and things are actually starting to change around here. I owe T 10 whacks right now plus a couple "penalty swats" for trying to blame me for one of the tally marks he earned and trying to talk and joke his way out of the spanking for the tally mark. Once I take care of the punishment (probably tonight) both our slates will be clear. Now that we've both been doing so well with the actual set rules, more things will start to come into play that don't necessarily have a set number of swats for an infraction. Attitude and all around behavior will be looked at much more closely and dealt with when needed.
We did change things a little bit with the journals though as we won't be waiting for the end of the week or a certain day (We originally decided on Friday). I didn't want to start dreading Fridays because one or both of us had a spanking to deliver or receive. Not only that but it wasn't as effective as it could be when something has happened like the Saturday or Sunday before and it gets put off until Friday to be dealt with. So now things will be dealt with more frequently when needed, time allowing that is. As I said, I still owe T 10 whacks for stuff that happened last weekend but time and obligations got in the way. I'll be taking care of that tonight hopefully.
Well, that's it for this installation. Till next time...
~D~
The use of the journals and tally system has really made a difference in our journey. No more letting things slide and things are actually starting to change around here. I owe T 10 whacks right now plus a couple "penalty swats" for trying to blame me for one of the tally marks he earned and trying to talk and joke his way out of the spanking for the tally mark. Once I take care of the punishment (probably tonight) both our slates will be clear. Now that we've both been doing so well with the actual set rules, more things will start to come into play that don't necessarily have a set number of swats for an infraction. Attitude and all around behavior will be looked at much more closely and dealt with when needed.
We did change things a little bit with the journals though as we won't be waiting for the end of the week or a certain day (We originally decided on Friday). I didn't want to start dreading Fridays because one or both of us had a spanking to deliver or receive. Not only that but it wasn't as effective as it could be when something has happened like the Saturday or Sunday before and it gets put off until Friday to be dealt with. So now things will be dealt with more frequently when needed, time allowing that is. As I said, I still owe T 10 whacks for stuff that happened last weekend but time and obligations got in the way. I'll be taking care of that tonight hopefully.
Well, that's it for this installation. Till next time...
~D~
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