It's been a while since I did a post. D has done three as I've sat back and watched. I don't have an excuse and won't try to come up with one.
I labeled this post "Stop Signs & U-Turns" because they seem to be popping up on the road we're on right now. As we began this blog, things were going well. We were communicating and following the rules, we were paying attention to changes that needed to be made and acting on them. Recently, we have both been letting too many things slide and not motivating each other in the ways we should. We have gotten lazy and drifted back into our old ways and haven't made some changes that we both would like to make. We are still drinking more water, but we aren't always getting the three bottles per day that we established for ourselves. We haven't started working out like we said we would. We are not holding each other accountable for this and other rules we have set.
I'm not saying everything is going bad right now. Our lives today are better than they were, but we still have a long road ahead, and if we keep putting these obstacles in our way we'll never reach the end.
~T~
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Hi D&T!
Thank you for your comment on my blog. I just linked your blog. I also plan to feature it in my next "In with the New" post. That should send some new readers your way.
DDD is a unique alternative about which we seldom hear. I will be interested to learn how this arrangement works for you.
I wish you the very best with your DDD relationship, your new blog, and all the other elements of a rich and fulfilling life.
With warm regards,
Bonnie
Consistency seems to be the hardest part of this whole thing. Just hang in there. I think it just takes time.
Hi D and T. I just read your comment on MBS so thought I would drop by and say hello.
One thing that's a bit hard to do, for me anyway, is to leave comments on blogs that write about lifestyles I am not into, like DD, DDD or TPE. It's difficult to know how to respond to posts that deal with subjects that are very unfamiliar to me.
But it's always fun to read about all the different flavours of TTWD.
Hugs,
Hermione
Hey Hermione. Thanks for coming by and commenting. I tried to go to your blog to comment back to you but wasn't able to so I hope you'll read this. I can understand finding it difficult to comment on subjects you aren't familiar with. You can always look at it this way... T and I are just a normal every day couple who spank each other for fun and discipline. We put our pants on one leg at a time and have all the ups and downs of a "normal" couple. You'll find that we won't always post just about punishments and even if the post is about a punishment, that won't be all it entails. Once our lives calm down a bit we'll get back into posting a little more regularly and about different aspects of our relationship, including DDD. Again, thanks for stopping by!
~D~
Dear D&T,
just a quick note to offer a few words of encouragement. I have been blogging for slightly less than a year, and during that time I have received only a handful of comments, so I understand your frustration. I know at least a few people read the blog, some of them daily, and yet they never SAY anything! I'm curious by nature so I'm so curious about who they are, what they think, why they read it, what they like, etc. etc.
On the other hand, I'm just happy they do read it, and if they chose not to comment, well, I imagine they have their reasons.
Anyway, although DDD wouldn't work for us, I'm sincerely glad it's working for you, and I'll be curious to see how things progress.
Keep blogging!
Fondly,
Constance
I don't have a blog. I just built one page to store a picture on. That's why you couldn't find me.
So we aren't so very different from one another after all. Good to know!
Hugs,
Hermione
Constance: Thanks for coming by! May I ask, what happened with your DDD relationship that it didn't work? We're still learning and want very much for this life style to succeed for us. We tried traditional first and that didn't work AT ALL so DDD was a good route for us to take. I do understand "lurkers" which is why we haven't given up blogging. We're just getting started so I'm sure over time things will pick up. They already have with just a simple comment made on Bonnie's blog.
Hermione: When I first started my "vanilla" blog it was just to make comments on my friend's blogs... That was 6 years ago. LOL Glad you're here!
~D~
Dear Dragon,
I've never been in a DDD relationship. I said it "wouldn't" work, not that it "didn't" work. It wouldn't work because my lover would simply not ever agree to or be comfortable in the submissive role, and I have no interest in being the dominant one. Our relationship is very traditionally male HOH oriented.
That said, I'm nothing if not open-minded, so I will be interested to read about your experiences, and I hope you're able to iron our the kinks. (Ok, this time the pun is intended!)
Best regards,
Constance
Oops sorry! I read it wrong. Somewhere in my brain "wouldn't" turned into "didn't". Sorry!
That's ok! It made me laugh a bit because my HOH is SO masculine, SO dominant, that the very suggestion that I should spank HIM causes the hair on the back of his neck to stand on end. It just ain't gonna happen!
Early on, when we were just getting to know each other, I gamely told him that I could "switch" if he liked, perhaps peg him, whatever, and he answered firmly "That wouldn't be possible." (As in, "So much as suggest it and I'll give you such a spanking you won't be able to sit for a week!")
I've linked to you, so I hope you see at least a little traffic from that, and good luck, as ever.
Constance
Masculine hoh ?(LOL). When we visited a spanking event my D asked someone: "have you already been spanked". He said no and I never will and I'm a dom. A couple of weeks later, he mailed. He had been thinking and thinking and he had been dreaming about being spanked over her knee. And she generalously allowed him this privilege. He is definately a spanker but sometimes he needs a good old fashioned bottom warming just as his mother gave him when he was a little boy.
hi there...just stopping again to say hi because of Bonnie's link, but I already have a subscription. *smiles*
Hi D&T,
we really enjoyed reading this and I know exactly what you mean about every other aspect of life being normal - its not like DD couples jump into funny costumes when they get home (well some probably do), we open the mail and fix dinner like everyone else
Anyway, I'm a former spanker but in our relationship its only my partner K who does the spanking. People have asked me in the past whether we would ever "go mutual" and I've always said no, not that I don't miss the satisfaction of giving out a good spanking, I just could not in the context of my relationship with K (and if I'm honest 'm not sure she does that much to deserve one).
When pressed for a reason I think its this - to get from where I satated, committed dominant spanker, alpha professional male by day, to being on the receiving end of a full blown DD relationship was such a leap for me that to make it, I had to leap all the way. There are lots of good reasons why being spanked works for me and helps our relationship, duality would cloud that I think.
But I'm fascinated to read your story and to encounter another entertaining DD(D) blog, keep it up.
R
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